This is a term coined by a research psychologist named Alfred Skinner who studied the behaviour of animals in a ‘Skinner Box’.This was a simple box with a lever, water, and a small shoot.Being diagnosed with charismatic borderline personality disorder, I have always had a tendency to “push people away.” Narcissists get particularly wrapped up with borderlines because, more than anything, they are looking for fans.They don't even have a truly set sexual identity; they are just looking for someone to worship them as much as they worship themselves.
However, when men pull away, we tend to become scared and unable to interpret their body language in an objective manner, and remain high value. Most men can only take being connected deeply to you for a certain amount of time before they need to remove themselves to find their equilibrium again.
I only say this because most of us (myself included) respond with fear and neediness when he pulls away. You no longer feel like that princess that he once treated you as.
There is good evolutionary reason for us doing this – and there’s nothing wrong with becoming needy and fearful when he pulls away, you just need to be aware that it can strip value from the relationship bank. (Click to download my “Goddess Report”) It causes women stress when a man pulls away, but from a man’s perspective – if he doesn’t pull away now, then his own stress levels will go through the roof.
He will get close and then he'll start to pull away until he feels good about himself and then he will get close again.
If he pulls away and she pursues him, then he never gets the space he needs to miss her.